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Today I will be sharing with you numerous tools to aid you on your healing journey.
If you feel hurt, disappointed, or invaluable, you may have unresolved emotional problems.
A few examples, this could be because you have experienced a traumatic time in the past, like the loss of someone you love, illness, the end of a relationship, bullying, trauma or any life changing event.
No matter the event, I’m here to tell you that you can heal yourself, not 100% because nobody is totally healed. Healing is not linear.
Over time, you start learning how to control these emotions and to approach the bad days. And isn’t as hard as you may think.
In some cases, it can take a bit longer to heal, but you just have to be patient and kind with yourself.
Always remember your worth and that you’re capable of doing more than you’ve ever thought possible.
You just need a few minutes every day to relax and connect to your energy, to create space and time to heal yourself, and with practice, you will begin feeling and seeing the benefits.
I’ve been on my own healing journey since 2019.
Alcoholism nearly sent me into an early grave with liver failure.
After struggling with severe anxiety, depression and insomnia for several years, I began to self-medicate with alcohol, where in the end it nearly killed me.
Looking back, it was the best thing that ever happened to me – it helped me see life through different eyes, and be grateful for all that I have.
In this post, I’m giving you some simple steps to jumpstart your healing process and release emotional pain from your body.
I really hope this could help you in some way.
Emotional healing is necessary because we go through all sorts of emotional distress; anxiety, negative self-talk, obsessions, bouts of depression, doubt, sadness.
All these emotions create blockages and prevent us from approaching life from a calm, present and growth mindset.
Therefore, we may find ourselves in toxic patterns and relationships or unable to manifest what we truly want.
Below are 20 tips and steps to help you on your healing journey.
Whatever you feel is something that is coming naturally to you.
If you feel miserable or frustrated for no understandable reason, it’s still valid.
Sometimes it might not even be about your life but the environment around you, the content that you’ve been consuming, the state of your loved ones.
If you want to get out of this zone, the first step is to accept and embrace how you feel.
We can’t be happy at all times, but we can be true.
Let’s not fight our emotions to turn into what we want them to be.
Express your emotions, cry, yell, write, let it all out.
By expressing your emotions, you’re becoming more aware of why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling.
Don’t discredit yourself and your thoughts, these emotions are popping up for a reason.
All this pain you have been carrying inside must come out.
It’s an important step in learning how to release emotional pain from your body.
I have come to realise, that by observing all the people that I have met in my life, that there is a stark difference between those that have a positive relationship with themselves and those with a negative one.
The fact is this, all of us will go through tough times, there is no escaping that.
The intensity of pain can differ but we all face challenges here and there.
What can change the experience, however, is how we carry ourselves through them.
What do we say to ourselves? Do we choose to empower or disempower ourselves?
The process of learning to heal our emotional wounds comes with moments of solitude and reflection.
These moments of individuality are essential, but it is necessary to transfer this inner knowledge into the world and radiate change with your family and friends when you’re at work.
Once you have learned to love yourself for what you are and for what you are about to become, let others give you love as well.
Listen and be giving – you will notice more meaningful interactions with others.
Most of the time, what causes emotional distress is not the events in your life but how you perceive them.
Learning to observe your mind and the type of thoughts you have or dwell upon is key to emotional healing.
When you get a grip on your mind, you can start to identify what thoughts do not serve you, what thoughts trigger toxic patterns, and what thoughts cause you distress.
Then, with repetition and courage, you can choose to let go of these thoughts; even if they pop up and they will, they do not have to have control over you – you are the only master of your mind.
Our past is part of who we are, but it is not all there is.
To move on is to choose growth and reinvention over inertia and passivity.
Painful past events or emotions have a way to set us in a mentality of scarcity and regret.
We can choose not to let our human tendency of dwelling on the past and focus on the solutions for change.
Emotional healing is not easy, but it is the only way towards expansion and growth.
To heal from our emotional distress is about upgrading our personality: choosing a feature, we want to change and identifying what thoughts and actions align with this intention.
After this awareness phase, steps and control over your circumstances will naturally follow, and you will start experiencing genuine emotional health.
Emotional healing isn’t easy because we highlight shortcomings, our negative patterns – basically what we need and want to change.
To start emotional healing, you must accept to look deep down into yourself without judgment and be willing to bring CHANGE into your life.
Acceptance of who you are now is essential, but you also must believe you can renew yourself.
Self-care is an important aspect of the healing journey.
It can help to lower risk of developing symptoms like depression and anxiety.
Caring for oneself includes different activities or practices to keep oneself healthy and feeling safe in life.
It can involve learning self-soothing skills, prioritizing one’s own needs, practicing relaxation techniques, etc.
It is also important to know that self-care isn’t always easy or enjoyable.
Practice and patience are required to find what works for you and doing so may be the difference between feeling great or not so great.
This is an important step in the healing process, is to create a safe space for yourself.
This could be a physical space, such as by using self-soothing techniques or creating an inner sanctuary, or it could be an emotional space.
Another important step is to seek support from family and friends, for instance by having someone you know available to talk to.
Many people are badly affected by traumatic events and need professional help.
Yet many people can also heal themselves with these two steps.
Meditating regularly can help to increase resilience in difficult situations and make you react from your emotions less often.
If you’re starting with meditation, start with just 5 or 10 minutes every day.
It will help make it a habit you can stick with. With meditation, you’ll feel calmer, more creative, positive, and more aware of your emotions.
A few minutes a day can make a big difference in how you feel.
The most important step in healing yourself is letting go.
Constantly thinking about revenge on whatever is causing you to hurt is ultimately only hurting yourself.
Let go of the instinct to seek revenge to create room in your mind to feel peace, acceptance, and happiness.
Focus on that new positive mindset instead. It takes time, practice, and awareness to get there but you CAN do it.
Anytime when it feels that there is a pressurising situation making its place on your shoulders, take a few minutes before starting to deal with it.
These few minutes make a great difference in how you would approach that problem.
Fearfully hurrying to resolution is unlikely to reap any good results.
Choose to respond by rejecting the temptation to react.
Give yourself the opportunity to assess the problem and think of the possible ways that you can go about responding to it.
Arguably the most important step to emotional self-care is allowing yourself to feel and experience the emotions that come to you.
Many of our problems arise when we try to fight off said emotions and don’t address them.
By allowing the experience of our emotions we can then begin to take further steps to heal them and then let them go.
Once you allow yourself to sit with your emotions, you will become much more familiar with them and you will start to observe patterns.
What causes you to feel sad? Is there a particular person that you experience anger around?
Ask yourself what causes your emotions and you will know how to reduce negative ones in the future.
Many of us really struggle with putting ourselves first.
When we have other people who are dependent on us, we can see our own needs as a last resort and neglect to take care of ourselves.
Switching your focus to yourself is the best thing you can do, not only for yourself but for others.
Boundaries are essential when it comes to emotional healing.
If you have a problem putting yourself first, then maybe you also struggle with enforcing boundaries that are necessary for your wellbeing.
Try getting comfortable with saying no more often – some people may not like it but that’s OK!
If something is harmful to you emotionally, you are entitled to say no to it.
Surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you feel good.
Obviously, this cannot be achieved all the time, but if anybody makes you feel drained or negative too often then distance yourself from them or let them go entirely.
It is much harder to protect your own emotions when you surround yourself with negativity.
Journaling can be a helpful tool for those who are on their healing journey.
It can have many benefits, including the following:
It is important to write down your thoughts and feelings when you are healing.
This process will help you to heal because it forces you to focus on your feelings, rather than the traumatic event itself.
Journaling also helps people come up with solutions for problems and new ideas.
One of the most important things you can do to care for yourself is to practice self-compassion.
Become aware of the dialogue you have with yourself within your own head.
Are you too hard on yourself?
If you find yourself constantly criticizing yourself and using negative language, you need to switch it up and start treating yourself with the love and respect that you want from others.
Scheduling specific time to rest each day can help to ensure that you have adequate down time and don’t work yourself into the ground.
Feelings of overwhelm can arise quickly when we don’t allow ourselves to rest and recharge.
Learning to switch off can be hard but the more you do it the easier it becomes!
We’ve all been hurt in different ways and we all require different amounts of time to heal.
But you’re one step closer if you made the decision to let it go.
To accept and really want to heal.
Always remember that you’re worth so much more than you’ve convinced yourself of and you’re capable of amazing things.
Hello! My name is Adam and welcome to my space on the internet. Here you can find me writing about subjects such as spiritual growth, self-discovery, wellbeing, addiction recovery and mental health. Please connect with me on my journey and join the community!